U-N-I-T-Y

TOP TEN WAYS TO MARRY a "MR. RIGHT"

By Omar Black

Unity. U-N-I-T-Y. It is so easy to spell but so hard for us to do. About 95% of our people’s struggles, ills, and misfortune would be eradicated, if we were unified. The high rates of unemployment, underemployment, poverty and self-hatred would disappear almost overnight, if we had the full knowledge of how important unification is to life in the spiritual and developmental process. We come together at times, but never in its fullness. Look at how divided we are. No one can dispute this with logic. We are divided in our homes, in our families, in our communities, and in our schools. We are divided in our churches and mosques, in our fraternities and sororities, and worst of all in ourselves.

Unless we unify in this day and time, it’s over. Nothing seems to unify us… just yet. Blackness hasn’t done it; religion hasn’t done it; politics hasn’t done it; education hasn’t done it. However, there is some GOOD NEWS my brothers and sisters! I see a different spirit moving amongst our people. I can’t exactly put my finger on it, but something great is happening! Maybe GOD is showing us in a variety of ways that the only thing that can save us is us.

Wake up! Look around. Every ethnic group is moving forward but us. There is a Chinatown or a Koreatown somewhere in every city. There is a Little Italy or a Little Havana.

Whether you live in the city, suburbs or in a rural area, your hard-earned money is not building up a Black community. You can’t get gas, go to a hotel, a grocery store, a drycleaners, or eat in a restaurant without seeing someone other than you owning and managing that place of business.

May God bless them all, but the common factor that I am a witness to is that they all have unity. Everybody is benefiting from America being for sale but us. The hell that we are catching on earth is the product of a lack of knowledge, understanding, love, and above all else… UNITY.

Peace & Best Wishes
Omar Black

1) Try to look and act your best whenever you leave your place of abode.
Why: You never know who is observing you. It could be a friend of your Mr. Right.

2) Look for the spiritual side first then the cultural side second. Never put looks or money first and foremost although it is a part of the equation. Have the proper order. Why: The spiritual and cultural is permanent. The other is temporal or superficial. It is not the "real" person.

3) Never ask your friends’ opinion on things, until you have investigated and studied the situation first. Why: Their opinion or advice is based on perception not facts. Perception is not necessarily reality.

4) Introduction by a mutual person is best. Why: Meeting complete strangers can be hazardous, a heartache and a risky business.

5) Never, ever think that you just want a so-called "buddy" because you are tired of lonely weekends looking at four walls. Why: "Real" men aren’t constructed that way. He’s only waiting for an opportunity. If you think that’s not the case… well think again.

6) Try attending business or professional events. Why: That’s the only time that we are on our best behavior. Not too many single men in the church or the mosque. That’s why most singles’ ministries become women’s groups… to talk about us! (smile)

7) Leave "da club" scene alone. That environment is not conducive to a progressive mindset. Why: We don’t go there looking for a Ms. Right. Plus, it’s outdated.

8) Ladies, don’t be ashamed to let it be known that you are single. Not in a flirtatious manner, but in a way that is subtle and graceful. Tell somebody! (smile) Why: Knowledge is power. The most valuable commodity is to be informed.

9) You don’t have to go out on a date to find out about this brother. Check him out over the phone… even if it takes one or two months. Why: The physical presence can be very distracting for both parties at hand. If it’s too soon, forget about it. Timing is everything.

10) You have to become a Ms. Right in order to get a Mr. Right. Why: Grease and water just don’t mix well.

Link to Omar's Poetry Page... Go!